10 Tips on Love That Will Improve the Rest of Your Life Too

1. Believe in love at first sight. Even if it has never happened to you or anyone you know; Even if the only place you have ever seen it is in the movies, believe in it anyways. Believing in fairy tales and dreams coming true isn't stupid or childish, it's hopeful. Love at first sight can happen. And knowing that will make you more optimistic overall. 

2. Don't NOT date someone because they're younger or shorter than you. Stop being so picky. You're stopping yourself from being happy for no legitimate reason at all. Broaden you're horizons. You'll be surprised what a difference it makes when you stop putting limitations on the meaningless aesthetics in your life.

3. Stop panicking over never finding love. So you're getting older, and it seems that everyone around you has already found a fairy tale relationship. Lucky bastards. What about you? Stop crying, you'll find it too. True love doesn't have a deadline, so relax. Seriously. You're freaking everybody out. Eliminating this stress in your life will minimize the rest of your problems, too.

4. Don't cheat. Not even once. In this day and age, we all know cheaters and victims of a cheater. It's almost trendy. Don't fall for a bullshit trend like that. You swear to yourself it will be a one-time thing, but once you do it that one time and get away with it, you discover how easy it is. So, you do it all the time. Now you feel comfortable being immoral because you aren't afraid of the consequences. And who knows what you'll do once you're not worried about the results of your actions? Congratulations, you have officially become a shitty person. Nobody wants that guilt.

5. Have a lot of sex. Science tells us that sex releases endorphins, and endorphins make us happy. We all know that sex makes us happy without all the fancy scientific studies. But, it does more than that. It boosts our immune system, reduces stress, and helps deplete the pain of a headache. Outside of that, you need to figure out what you want! Don't settle until you explore all options. It takes experience and experiments to be sure of what you really like. So, go ahead. You go girl.

6. Stop talking about your breakup. I know how much it sucks, and of course you need to vent. Talk to your girls, they'll have your back as always, but only for so long. We've all been through it, and it's the worst. We know. We get it. Have a drink. In fact, have a few, and stop talking about it. Go out there and have fun. The more you talk about it, the more it's on your mind. Go preoccupy yourself and your life will be better than ever in no time at all.

7. Appreciate their flaws. The man you love has flaws, just like you do. If you want him to appreciate yours, you have to do the same for him. Don't give him a hard time. Instead, learn to love those quirky things about him. If you won't ever be able to love them, then he's not the guy for you anyway. When you stop being so petty, and teach yourself to love the bad and negative aspects of a person, you'll be able to do the same for everything else. It will help you to react better to all the things in the world that piss you off.

8. Don't get jealous. You're walking down the street, holding hands with your babe, and you see him give the up-down to a skinny girl with perfect hair and huge boobs. Now you're fucking pissed, and hardly talk to him for the rest of the day. Calm down. If he wanted her and not you, he would have let go of your hand and chased that skinny bitch all the way home. Well, he didn't, did he? He's allowed to look. You do it all the time. It's human nature, and it isn't a crime. Learning to control your jealousy with your boy will help you to keep your envious wrath under wraps every where else you go.

9. Give blowjobs. This one's simple. Don't be a bitch. If you're one of those girls that hates blowjobs, you're bound to lose a lot of good relationships. If you're a stern feminist who thinks this is unfair and uncalled for, then I'm sorry. I'm sure somewhere out there exists a man who doesn't enjoy a good BJ. But usually, guys appreciate it. So be a good girlfriend and head down under. This one will reward you with the special skill known as generosity. Seriously, I'm not joking. Being a generous and caring person sometimes requires sacrificing our own happiness. Blowjobs make good practice.

10. Love fearlessly. Don't be afraid to love. Go searching for love. Fall in love. Love a man. Love a man that you're not going to end up with. Love yourself, your mom, your dad. Love openly without hesitation. Love with reckless abandon. Love your home, your pets, the sky, the earth. Love everything. Your heart can hold it all, I swear. The more you love, the less you fear. Love conquers all, or so they say. So, do it. Don't be scared of love, and you won't be quite so scared of life.


Enjoy, friends!
With much love, Bri

More To The Story

There is a lot of back story between my life with Nick as it is now. This story begins in the summer of my sophomore year of college. I had a little over a week of summer left before I would travel back to school to start classes again when I decided I wasn't going to go back. I would go back to my college town to live, but I didn't want to do the whole school thing. It just wasn't for me, I came to realize. What really pushed me to make this realization was a conversation Nick and I had a few days prior to that. We talked about my dream of living at the beach, maybe opening a bar or a surf shop and his fantasy of working for a deep sea fishing charter. "We could do that," I said. "Who says we can't?" I was being totally serious. I was actually ready to pack up and move hundreds of miles away from my home to make my dream come true. I didn't see any reason I should let anything stop me. I thought Nick believed in this plan as much as I did. I was wrong.

It's not so much that he didn't believe, but he didn't think it was possible. I wasn't scared. I rarely am. I jump into everything in my life spontaneously and open-mindedly. I like to push boundaries, be the rebel, and do things everyone else is afraid to try. For Nick, these dreams could never be possible. They would never be jobs that would support a family. He couldn't quit school. We didn't have the money. These were the excuses I was given. However, it was too late. I had made up my mind. I was quitting college. Not because I wasn't good at it or didn't like it. Simply, because I felt I didn't need it to achieve my goals.

I couldn't leave him, though. I had to stay in my college town because he was there. So, I spent that year wishing I was somewhere else. He told me so many times to go, but how could I? My life was here. I knew that even though I would be in a new place- and that was all I really ever wanted- I would never be happy if Nick was not there with me. I've spent another whole year here since then, still unsure of my future. As of right now, I do not know what I want to do with the rest of my life. Short-term or long-term. I just don't know. I work as a waitress currently, and no I don't love it. In fact, I despise it. But, right now, I don't know what else to do. I'm not in a hurry, though, I'm happy.

I know two things. One, I want to move far away, someplace I've never been with an amazing view out my window of this miraculous world. Two, I want to be with Nick. Always.

To some people, it sounds like Nick is holding me back. It may sound like some of my dreams and aspirations were put on pause because I'm waiting for him. That's not the case, though. I'm waiting for me. I need to figure out what I want to do before I can make any major adjustments in my life, and Nick helps me to do that.

When Nick graduates and moves away, I will go with him. I would go with him to the moon and back if he asked me to. I know that someday I'll figure out what it is that I want. I already know who I want. The rest is taking a bit longer to figure out, but I'm working on it. I'll never want a real career, anyway, just something to keep me busy, but not suck the life out of me. God, am I thankful for a man like Nick that accepts me and my carefree ways.

Love, Bri

It's Actually Never Too Soon

I remember scrolling through my Facebook news feed so many times, seeing couples who had only been dating for two weeks posting, "OMG, I love you forever," all over one another's wall. You have to be kidding me, I would think to myself. They've been together for, like what? A minute? As it turns out, falling in love changed how I saw these people and their shockingly quick love for each other.
Now, I admit, of course, people do take the word "love" for granted. We throw it out on a daily basis, over little things that we probably don't really have an undying passion for. We hear "Hate is a strong word" all the time, but no one every says anything about "love" being a strong word. Love is even stronger than hate, if you ask me. Yet, somehow, we forget that. There are people who undoubtedly overuse the word "love" and more importantly the phrase, "I Love You." They say it to people who are still practically strangers to them. That will always happen, but we shouldn't be so quick to judge those that are more apt to throw the word around. Maybe all those people that we think are being irrational just know something that we don't.
Nick and I were together for six months before we became "official." I don't even know what that means. It took us six whole months before we decided people could refer to us a couple. We gave ourselves the titles of boyfriend and girlfriend, and it was finally okay to say that we were dating. But what about the six months before that? We were falling head-over-heels in love with each other the whole damn time, but apparently those six amazing months don't count because we weren't "official." 
Well, this is how I learned that things aren't always as they appear. Nick and I were saying "I love you" five days after we stared officially dating. That's right. Five days. To the rest of the world, this would look as though we were dating for five days, and then decided we loved each other. That's not the truth of it, though. The truth is we fell in love long before the world knew us to be a couple. We loved one another for the entire six months. That first time he said I love you, and I said it back, I realized that it really is never too soon to say I love you. What we should be more worried about is saying it too late. What harm is there in saying I love you to someone that we don't love, or saying it before we truly love a person? Who decided that was unacceptable? If you ask me, society is wrong to scorn those who love so freely and willingly.
Say "I Love You." Say it often and loudly. Say it because you mean it, even if everyone else thinks that you don't. We shouldn't be afraid of those words. They are nothing more that, they are words. They can't hurt us. Sure, admitting that we love something or someone makes us more vulnerable, more naked. We shouldn't run from those emotions, though. We should embrace them. Maybe if none of us were afraid of being in love or opening our mouths and telling everybody that we're in love, the world would be just a little better off.
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Love, Bri <3




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