Just the other day, Nick and I celebrated our one year and eight month anniversary. Well, no, we didn't really celebrate. It was just another day. But, the point is, we have now officially been together for a year and eight months. For some of you that doesn't sound like a very long time. However, for those of you who are in or have ever been in a relationship like mine, you can understand that it feels like we have truly been together for a lifetime. I don't think anyone says it better than Christina Perri when she sings "I have loved you for a thousand years, I will love you for a thousand more." I really, really, deep down in my heart feel like I have known and loved him for thousands of years. For as long as the waves have crashed and the wind has blown. Forever and beyond it. I guess that's how it feels to have a soulmate.
Anyway, flashbacks of memories often appear in my head. The way we were different then. Two years ago, when we were still falling in love. Those memories are the absolute best. Of course, every day and every moment with him is a treasure, but nothing is like those first couple months of pure magic. There is a big difference between falling in love and being in love. And sometimes, I wish I could go back to that.
Now, we know everything about each other, we're together 24/7, we're familiar and comfortable. But when we were still just falling for each other there was so much more risk involved. Back then, I never knew if he was going to always be there the next day or if whatever it was that we were doing would be my last memory with him, and I'm sure he felt the same about me. Nothing was concrete. We could have just been people passing through one another's lives with no major meaning. I always knew that I loved him, but back in those months of falling head over heels for one another, it was different. Everything was just a little bit more special. Maybe because we were constantly learning new things about each other. Or always trying new things together. I guess I don't know what makes it different, but it is. If you have ever heard anyone say that falling is the best part, they weren't kidding. So if any of you out there are in that fantastic stage of a relationship, enjoy it. Treasure every moment. It is the basis for the rest of your relationship together.
Happy Friday, lovlies!
Bri
Friday, October 25, 2013
Friday, October 18, 2013
A Girl's Guide to Getting (and Keeping) the Guy
Girls are always panicking when they're single. We have all been there. Don't pretend you haven't. You have. As independent as we believe ourselves to be, at some point in our lives, we find ourselves turning into complete psychopaths trying to find our soulmates. Don't feel bad, it's human nature. It happens. So, for all of you ladies out there looking for love, here are a few simple rules to remember.
1. Dont be a bitch. Don't tell him how to dress or how to eat. He's a big boy. If he needs someone to boss him around, he'll be living in his parents basement until he's 40, and you don't want that anyways. But assuming he's a normal adult man, he doesn't need or want your constant bitching. He won't find it sexy when you're rude to strangers or catty with other girls. He doesn't care about your womanly drama. And he especially isn't going to appreciate you being a bitch to his friends or to him about his friends. Don't even pretend to be bitchy. It's not attractive, it's repulsive.
2. Don't be a slut. Seriously. This one might be even more important than not being a bitch. If you actually believe a man that's boyfriend-material is okay with the two of you sharing chlamydia, then you might have to think again. I'm just going to go ahead and take a stab in the dark when I say he doesn't want your STDs/STIs. If he doesn't care whether you have any or not, there's a pretty good chance that he does. And if he does, then you don't want any of that. I do not care how ripped he is, or how nice of eyes he has, a man with no self-awareness is not the man for you. Have some pride in yourself and your lady parts. Don't go grinding on random dudes at the club, don't wear mini-skirts with no underwear, don't send nudies to people you hardly know. It's common sense. I promise if you cut your slutty shit, you're going to find an awesome guy in no time at all.
3. Be sexy. Sexy and slutty are NOT the same thing. Learn the difference. You can look drop-dead gorgeous without inviting all the boys in the neighborhood to come and see what's under your skirt. Wear a slinky dress that actually covers your lady bits. Don't be afraid of lingerie or talking about sex. Make subtle sexual innuendos in your casual barside banter. It's going to turn him on without making you sound like a prostitute. Don't have sex with him on the first night, but don't make him wait too long either. Have some drinks, but don't get hammered. If you drink too much, you are going to start acting slutty. It's unavoidable. So before you make a mess of yourself and ruin the whole sex appeal thing you were working on all night, put down your drink. Bat your eyelashes, flip your hair, think sultry. You're a rockstar.
4. Wear heels. There is not a single man on the planet who doesn't love a woman in heels. Not only do they give you some extra height, but they make your legs look killer. Your muscles instantly look more toned and defined and they're going to draw attention to that cute little tush of yours. Put a pair of heels or wedges on and look in the mirror. Even if your not the type of girl to normally wear heels, you know you look good. It's a total confidence boost. Your legs and butt look awesome, and every guy will notice. Plus, he will be able to tell comfortable you feel with yourself. It's okay to think that you're beautiful. You are. And if you know that without being too cocky, guys are going to notice. And they're going to love it.
5. Be flirty. Flirt, flirt, flirt. As girls, this is our specialty. Half the time, we don't even know we're doing it. But if for some reason you're not, then start. Don't be overbearing. Be casual. Be cool. Tell him he looks good if he does. When you're standing in the corner of the room whispering to your girl friends about how sexy the guy in the v-neck looks, you're doing it wrong. Stop telling them and tell him. He's going to love the compliment, and what's the worst that could happen? Nothing comes out of it. Well, you certainly weren't getting anything out of it when you were admiring him from afar. Don't be afraid to flirt with guys. They're going to appreciate you for making an effort.
6. Take the initiative. Just because you're a female, doesn't mean you should expect men to wait on you hand and foot. Someday it might happen...in a dream world. But don't count on it. Just because you're pretty and dressed nice does not mean they're going to come to you. So go to them. Don't be afraid to go to new places and do new things. New places and activities equal new people. New people means new guys, and hopefully attractive guys. Don't be shy or quiet or scared. You're a sexy, confident woman. So, smile, laugh, and most importantly, approach. If you stand in the shadows your whole life, you'll never achieve anything that you want. Get out there and do your thing. Talk to them before they talk to you. Be outgoing. It's a really kickass quality to have.
7. Play with his head. Take this one with a grain of salt. This is tough because it has to be done just right or it will fail miserably, and you'll probably lose the one you're after. However, if you do it correctly, you'll have your boy in the palm of your hand. And that's just where you want him, isn't it? The most important thing to remember is you have to play hard to get. Give him just enough of who you are. Go ahead and be sexy, flirt, and take the initiative, but don't let on too much. You want to know that he is interested before you walk away. Which is the major reason you don't do the dirty on the first night. Because then what's left? So keep him entertained while remaining at a distance. It's more about being mysterious than anything else. You want him to keep coming back, so leave questions unanswered and doors unopened. Don't push him too far away, but don't text him every day either. It's not as hard as it sounds. Try it out.
8. Be yourself. I know, you hate me a little bit for saying this, but it is the most important rule to remember. If you forget this one, you're a lost cause, and so is the dream boy you've been hunting. From the moment you meet him, don't pretend you're someone different. If he seems like he's a little bit edgy and that's not really your thing, but you want him to want you, do NOT pretend to be edgy. If you are the girliest girl in the entire world, go ahead and be that way. Be whatever it is that you are no matter what he is. Because whatever you do to try to fool him, somewhere down the road, the truth will be uncovered. And then there was never any sense in those little lies you made up. It was all for nothing. If you remember to stay true to the person that you are, you're going to find the one that is meant for you much quicker. Sure, you can go out of your way to change yourself for the guy you're after, but even if you get him, I can damn well bet you that he's not the one you're supposed to be with forever. Your soulmate will help you to take pride in who you really are, so you'll never have to pretend to be something that you're not. Don't ever forget that.
These all may sound a little bit repetitive. A little bit too simple, perhaps? Well yea, they are simple! They are insanely easy, yet somehow, when we lay eyes on the man of our dreams, all common sense slips away. Don't let that happen. Remember the basic rules and you'll win him over. Good luck, girlies.
Love,
Bri
1. Dont be a bitch. Don't tell him how to dress or how to eat. He's a big boy. If he needs someone to boss him around, he'll be living in his parents basement until he's 40, and you don't want that anyways. But assuming he's a normal adult man, he doesn't need or want your constant bitching. He won't find it sexy when you're rude to strangers or catty with other girls. He doesn't care about your womanly drama. And he especially isn't going to appreciate you being a bitch to his friends or to him about his friends. Don't even pretend to be bitchy. It's not attractive, it's repulsive.
2. Don't be a slut. Seriously. This one might be even more important than not being a bitch. If you actually believe a man that's boyfriend-material is okay with the two of you sharing chlamydia, then you might have to think again. I'm just going to go ahead and take a stab in the dark when I say he doesn't want your STDs/STIs. If he doesn't care whether you have any or not, there's a pretty good chance that he does. And if he does, then you don't want any of that. I do not care how ripped he is, or how nice of eyes he has, a man with no self-awareness is not the man for you. Have some pride in yourself and your lady parts. Don't go grinding on random dudes at the club, don't wear mini-skirts with no underwear, don't send nudies to people you hardly know. It's common sense. I promise if you cut your slutty shit, you're going to find an awesome guy in no time at all.
3. Be sexy. Sexy and slutty are NOT the same thing. Learn the difference. You can look drop-dead gorgeous without inviting all the boys in the neighborhood to come and see what's under your skirt. Wear a slinky dress that actually covers your lady bits. Don't be afraid of lingerie or talking about sex. Make subtle sexual innuendos in your casual barside banter. It's going to turn him on without making you sound like a prostitute. Don't have sex with him on the first night, but don't make him wait too long either. Have some drinks, but don't get hammered. If you drink too much, you are going to start acting slutty. It's unavoidable. So before you make a mess of yourself and ruin the whole sex appeal thing you were working on all night, put down your drink. Bat your eyelashes, flip your hair, think sultry. You're a rockstar.
4. Wear heels. There is not a single man on the planet who doesn't love a woman in heels. Not only do they give you some extra height, but they make your legs look killer. Your muscles instantly look more toned and defined and they're going to draw attention to that cute little tush of yours. Put a pair of heels or wedges on and look in the mirror. Even if your not the type of girl to normally wear heels, you know you look good. It's a total confidence boost. Your legs and butt look awesome, and every guy will notice. Plus, he will be able to tell comfortable you feel with yourself. It's okay to think that you're beautiful. You are. And if you know that without being too cocky, guys are going to notice. And they're going to love it.
5. Be flirty. Flirt, flirt, flirt. As girls, this is our specialty. Half the time, we don't even know we're doing it. But if for some reason you're not, then start. Don't be overbearing. Be casual. Be cool. Tell him he looks good if he does. When you're standing in the corner of the room whispering to your girl friends about how sexy the guy in the v-neck looks, you're doing it wrong. Stop telling them and tell him. He's going to love the compliment, and what's the worst that could happen? Nothing comes out of it. Well, you certainly weren't getting anything out of it when you were admiring him from afar. Don't be afraid to flirt with guys. They're going to appreciate you for making an effort.
6. Take the initiative. Just because you're a female, doesn't mean you should expect men to wait on you hand and foot. Someday it might happen...in a dream world. But don't count on it. Just because you're pretty and dressed nice does not mean they're going to come to you. So go to them. Don't be afraid to go to new places and do new things. New places and activities equal new people. New people means new guys, and hopefully attractive guys. Don't be shy or quiet or scared. You're a sexy, confident woman. So, smile, laugh, and most importantly, approach. If you stand in the shadows your whole life, you'll never achieve anything that you want. Get out there and do your thing. Talk to them before they talk to you. Be outgoing. It's a really kickass quality to have.
7. Play with his head. Take this one with a grain of salt. This is tough because it has to be done just right or it will fail miserably, and you'll probably lose the one you're after. However, if you do it correctly, you'll have your boy in the palm of your hand. And that's just where you want him, isn't it? The most important thing to remember is you have to play hard to get. Give him just enough of who you are. Go ahead and be sexy, flirt, and take the initiative, but don't let on too much. You want to know that he is interested before you walk away. Which is the major reason you don't do the dirty on the first night. Because then what's left? So keep him entertained while remaining at a distance. It's more about being mysterious than anything else. You want him to keep coming back, so leave questions unanswered and doors unopened. Don't push him too far away, but don't text him every day either. It's not as hard as it sounds. Try it out.
8. Be yourself. I know, you hate me a little bit for saying this, but it is the most important rule to remember. If you forget this one, you're a lost cause, and so is the dream boy you've been hunting. From the moment you meet him, don't pretend you're someone different. If he seems like he's a little bit edgy and that's not really your thing, but you want him to want you, do NOT pretend to be edgy. If you are the girliest girl in the entire world, go ahead and be that way. Be whatever it is that you are no matter what he is. Because whatever you do to try to fool him, somewhere down the road, the truth will be uncovered. And then there was never any sense in those little lies you made up. It was all for nothing. If you remember to stay true to the person that you are, you're going to find the one that is meant for you much quicker. Sure, you can go out of your way to change yourself for the guy you're after, but even if you get him, I can damn well bet you that he's not the one you're supposed to be with forever. Your soulmate will help you to take pride in who you really are, so you'll never have to pretend to be something that you're not. Don't ever forget that.
These all may sound a little bit repetitive. A little bit too simple, perhaps? Well yea, they are simple! They are insanely easy, yet somehow, when we lay eyes on the man of our dreams, all common sense slips away. Don't let that happen. Remember the basic rules and you'll win him over. Good luck, girlies.
Love,
Bri
Thursday, October 10, 2013
Missing Him
Hello loves,
Sorry it has been such a long time since I last posted. I haven't been around my computer much. Last week, Nick and I both went home to our parents houses for a few days. Nick was going home to hunt. Of course. I was going home just because I haven't been home for awhile, and my car was in need of a trip to the garage. We were apart for five days.
Five days. That doesn't sound like a lot, I know. Especially for those of you in long distance relationships. I applaud all of you that are able to put up with the distance, by the way. But, for me, it was downright awful. Naturally, I love being home with my family, but no matter how much else I've got on my plate while I'm home, my head still swims with thoughts of my baby. I missed him immensely while we were apart. In fact, immensely may be an understatement. Since we live together, I am so used to him always being there. Even when he's not right there, in the room, or in the next room over, he is always relatively close. I feel safe because I can feel his presence. I know he's never more than a few miles away, if that. That was why it was so unbearable for me to be away from him.
We've been apart before, mind you. In the summers and on other breaks. However, this time, the separation felt so much different to me. It was the first time we've been apart since living together. I can't believe how much that has changed the way I feel about his absence. I feel silly, honestly. It makes me feel like maybe I'm too clingy or even, God forbid, desperate. I know that's not the problem, though. I know I just miss him so much because of how much I love him.
I came back to the apartment Tuesday night, and he was already there. He had been here since Sunday night because of school. I knew all along that when he came back, he would be leaving the very next day, Wednesday, to go home and go hunting again for a long weekend. I was secretly hoping all the while that he would stay until Thursday so that I could have one more night with him before he left again. More importantly, one more day.
Well today is Thursday, and I'm all alone. I couldn't keep him here as much as I wanted to tie him down and forbid him to go. I knew how excited he was to go right back to his family, and climb up into his tree stand for a few more days in the woods. I couldn't take that away from him. It's his favorite thing in the whole world, and he doesn't get many chances to do it because of school. So, obviously, I cried when he left. I tried to keep it in, but I'm such a baby. He is my happiness, and without him, I'm not myself. He said he would stay, but I begged him to go. I know he would stay to make me happy, but I wanted him to be happy, too. He deserves it.
So, I will just wait patiently until my perfect boyfriend comes home. It's not like I can't handle being alone, I just really hate being away from him. Now, I'm just crossing my fingers for him in hopes that he brings home some venison and deer jerky to make all this loneliness worth while.
XoXo,
Bri
Sorry it has been such a long time since I last posted. I haven't been around my computer much. Last week, Nick and I both went home to our parents houses for a few days. Nick was going home to hunt. Of course. I was going home just because I haven't been home for awhile, and my car was in need of a trip to the garage. We were apart for five days.
Five days. That doesn't sound like a lot, I know. Especially for those of you in long distance relationships. I applaud all of you that are able to put up with the distance, by the way. But, for me, it was downright awful. Naturally, I love being home with my family, but no matter how much else I've got on my plate while I'm home, my head still swims with thoughts of my baby. I missed him immensely while we were apart. In fact, immensely may be an understatement. Since we live together, I am so used to him always being there. Even when he's not right there, in the room, or in the next room over, he is always relatively close. I feel safe because I can feel his presence. I know he's never more than a few miles away, if that. That was why it was so unbearable for me to be away from him.
We've been apart before, mind you. In the summers and on other breaks. However, this time, the separation felt so much different to me. It was the first time we've been apart since living together. I can't believe how much that has changed the way I feel about his absence. I feel silly, honestly. It makes me feel like maybe I'm too clingy or even, God forbid, desperate. I know that's not the problem, though. I know I just miss him so much because of how much I love him.
I came back to the apartment Tuesday night, and he was already there. He had been here since Sunday night because of school. I knew all along that when he came back, he would be leaving the very next day, Wednesday, to go home and go hunting again for a long weekend. I was secretly hoping all the while that he would stay until Thursday so that I could have one more night with him before he left again. More importantly, one more day.
Well today is Thursday, and I'm all alone. I couldn't keep him here as much as I wanted to tie him down and forbid him to go. I knew how excited he was to go right back to his family, and climb up into his tree stand for a few more days in the woods. I couldn't take that away from him. It's his favorite thing in the whole world, and he doesn't get many chances to do it because of school. So, obviously, I cried when he left. I tried to keep it in, but I'm such a baby. He is my happiness, and without him, I'm not myself. He said he would stay, but I begged him to go. I know he would stay to make me happy, but I wanted him to be happy, too. He deserves it.
So, I will just wait patiently until my perfect boyfriend comes home. It's not like I can't handle being alone, I just really hate being away from him. Now, I'm just crossing my fingers for him in hopes that he brings home some venison and deer jerky to make all this loneliness worth while.
XoXo,
Bri
Thursday, October 3, 2013
Easy Fixes For Relationship Troubles
Hey lovelies, I just came across this amazing article while aimlessly browsing the internet. If you're currently in a relationship, and you're in a rough patch, this post is for you! The following link will certainly be helpful, even if you're single at the moment:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201211/healing-the-cycles-tear-couples-apart
It gives examples of problems we ALL have experienced, are experiencing, or will experiencing. Of course, we all love to believe we have perfect relationships. I, for one, believe no relationship has ever been more perfect than mine. But, part of a perfect relationship is being able to identify with the imperfections. Which leads to the next subject in this article, fixing the problem. The post, "Healing the Cycles that Tear Couples Apart," earns five stars from me.
Hopefully, you all enjoy it as much as I did.
With Love,
Bri
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201211/healing-the-cycles-tear-couples-apart
It gives examples of problems we ALL have experienced, are experiencing, or will experiencing. Of course, we all love to believe we have perfect relationships. I, for one, believe no relationship has ever been more perfect than mine. But, part of a perfect relationship is being able to identify with the imperfections. Which leads to the next subject in this article, fixing the problem. The post, "Healing the Cycles that Tear Couples Apart," earns five stars from me.
Hopefully, you all enjoy it as much as I did.
With Love,
Bri
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